I have been depressed and despondent in my life and it is always because of what is happening to me or a loved one or family member or in society. When you weigh this fact against the good and bad times in my life you would think that bad times equal depressed times and good times happy times but that is not always the case because of the mindset or the established set of attitudes held by someone. A mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notations held by one or more people or groups of people. A mindset can also be seen as arising out of a person’s world view or philosophy of life.
Recently I had to put my wife of 49 years in a care home because of an advanced case of dementia. I tried to take care of her myself but could no longer meet all her needs and regrettably, I gave way to the fact that I needed professional help. For those who don’t know advanced dementia is a leading cause of death in the United States. Features include profound memory deficits, inability to recognize family, minimal verbal communication, loss of ambulatory abilities, the inability to perform activities of daily living, and urinary and fecal incontinence. Betty, my wife, has all of these symptoms.
People Come Into Your Life For A Reason, A Season, Or A Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are..
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
I always wondered what I would do if a court official made me put my hand on a bible and swear to tell “The whole truth and nothing but the truth”. I always thought that because I saw events a certain way that maybe someone else that witness it also saw it differently than I did. And it is true maybe they (someone else) was standing in a place that gave them a different perspective about the event and was paying more attention to the what happened. For whatever reason, my recollection of the facts may be different than another witness. My hope is that the truth would come out in the end. But in life, the truth is only as good as the understanding of what is true in the individual. If someone says to me that the chair in the room is solid and will hold me up when I set on it and it falls apart when I place my self inside the chair, that was untrue or a lie. But if I know the chair is made of oak and a watched a master builder put it together then I would be less skeptical of someone telling me it was solid and would hold me up. I would have more faith that the chair would hold me and confidently set down in the chair. Continue reading
There is a way of looking at things that drives me crazy it’s called Relativism. “That’s true for you but not for me”, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, “You can’t judge other cultures by the standards of your own”, “There are no absolutes in life”, these are some statements of Relativism. Relativism is sometimes (though not always) interpreted as saying that all points of view are equally valid, but in saying that they contradict themselves can evil even be defined under these terms, can well be defined? Only the personal belief matters not what the terms of the belief are. Don’t confuse me with the facts! Some relativists claim that humans can understand and evaluate beliefs and behaviors only in terms of their historical or cultural context. Continue reading
It’s fall and the weather is changing the days are getting shorter and the air a little cooler. This is my favorite time of the year in California the transition of seasons bring some beautiful days and cool nights. I turn 60 this year and as scary as that seems to some in life I really don’t consider that old. I don’t need a barometer anymore to know when the atmospheric pressure is dropping and the weather changing I can feel it in my joints. Continue reading